Why does my passport country feel foreign?
Because you may look and sound like you belong there without having grown up in it. TCK writers call this being a "hidden immigrant": people assume you share their references, humour, and habits, so the gaps feel more awkward than in a country where you're obviously from elsewhere. It's often the root of reverse culture shock.
The hidden immigrant
In a foreign country, everyone expects you to be different. In your passport country, nobody does - so not knowing the TV shows, slang, or unwritten rules reads as odd rather than foreign. Pollock and Van Reken describe this "hidden immigrant" experience as one of the most common for TCKs moving "back".
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Moving to your passport country can feel harder than moving abroad, precisely because you weren't expecting it to be hard. It helps to treat it like any other new country: give yourself time, find other people who've done the same, and stop expecting to feel instantly at home.
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What the research says
The standard reference on TCKs. Defines a TCK as someone who spends a significant part of their developmental years outside their parents' culture, and describes the common profile: the hard "where are you from?" question, the 'cultural chameleon', the 'hidden immigrant' feeling in the passport country, restlessness, and particular relationship patterns.
Pollock, D. C., Van Reken, R. E. & Pollock, M. V. Third Culture Kids: Growing Up Among Worlds (1999; 3rd ed. 2017). Nicholas Brealey.Third culture individuals tended to describe a multicultural identity - belonging to several cultures at once - rather than a confused one.
Moore, A. M. & Barker, G. G. (2012). Confused or multicultural: Third culture individuals' cultural identity. International Journal of Intercultural Relations, 36(4), 553-562.
Frequently asked questions
What is reverse culture shock?+
The disorientation of returning to your home or passport country after living abroad - often stronger than expected, because you assumed it would feel familiar.