the real reason, not the polite one
It's not bad luck, and it's not you. Most apps match you on a photo and a few seconds of swipe-judgment, then let you find out weeks later that you wanted completely different things. Oh My Person matches on the specific traits you both actually toggled on, and asks what kind of connection you're looking for up front - not after three dates.
Usually because matching is based on a photo and a vague bio, not on anything that actually predicts compatibility. Toggling on specific, true traits and matching on those gives you a real signal instead of a guess.
It's rarely you - it's that most apps optimize for more matches, not better ones. A compatibility score based on real shared traits, calculated before you message, is a different incentive entirely.
Specific shared traits - not shared interests like "hiking" that everyone lists, but the actual particular things two people have in common, weighted by how rare they are.