The research

The research behind Oh My Person

We built this app around what actually predicts a good relationship, and around real research on what growing up across cultures does to how people connect. Every figure below is sourced - DOIs included, so you can check them yourself.

Relationship science

11,196 couples, 43 studiesWhat actually makes relationships lastWhat predicts relationship quality across decades of research - and why chemistry and checklists explain almost none of it.15 min readRead →

Third culture kid research

Grief & belongingWhy third culture kids feel rootless (and what helps)The research on cumulative, unrecognised loss - and why rootless isn't the same as confused.7 min readRead →Identity & intimacyThird culture kids and fear of commitmentWhat a 2014 study of ten TCKs found about reticence in relationships - and what a 2015 dissertation found didn't explain it.6 min readRead →Military familiesDating as a military brat: what the research saysWhat a William & Mary dissertation found about adult relationships among children of military families.7 min readRead →Missionary familiesMissionary kid relationshipsWhat growing up on the field does to marriage, trust, and closeness - including the "benign disengagement" pattern.7 min readRead →RepatriationReverse culture shock and relationshipsWhy coming home is often harder on a relationship than moving abroad was.6 min readRead →

More, in short answers

TCK questions, answeredShorter, direct answers to specific questions - dating as a TCK, “where are you from?”, restlessness, and more.

2-minute self-checkHow TCK are you?13 statements drawn from research on third culture kids. Get a score from 0 to 100.Get my TCK score →1-minute quizWhat kind of TCK are you?Military brat, diplomat kid, missionary kid, code-switcher, or nomad kid - and what it says about how you love.Take the quiz →Free, onlineMeet people who get itPick a theme and a time - once enough people want it, we host a small online meetup.Pick a time →

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