the non-verbal shorthand thing
"Where are you from?" doesn't have a short answer for a lot of TCKs - and that's not evasiveness, it's just an accurate reflection of a childhood split across countries. Understanding that shorthand is part of what makes dating another TCK, or dating someone who gets it, feel different.
That "where are you from" is often a genuinely complicated question for them, not a deflection - and that a childhood spent adapting to new places and cultures can shape how someone handles closeness, distance, and change in a relationship.
There's no single TCK attachment style, but a lot of TCKs report that early, repeated moves shaped how they handle goodbyes, distance, and building new relationships - which is exactly the kind of thing an AI interview asking for real stories, not self-ratings, is built to surface.
Not harder, just different - the same research that says shared values and life goals predict long-term compatibility better than shared personality traits applies here too. The cross-cultural background is a starting point, not the whole picture.
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